I have been wanting to ask.. but also dunno how to start.. but wat do u all think if ur hubby dun wan to let 1 of his so-call female colleague knows that he is married? i mean i did ask him.. all he said was not that he is hiding... but they did not mention abt it mah..
why i said so-call female colleague is becos the ger is from the main contractor's client which my hubby is the sub-con side lah.. by right they are not suppose to be able to talk to each other.. if main con find out jialat lah.. but got 1 day.. just last week or so.. the goods kanna stuck somewhere.. that's why they need to communicate thru phone and its an urgent cargo...
so last nite.. hubby log in msn.. he asked me to check something for him i went to the computer.. i saw her messaging him.. (he just log in only) she said "hi. chatting?" i wanted to reply for him saying " nope, busy with my wife" den i call him and see what i type but i did not send the msg.. den he say "no no.. should be like that" den he start signing out and exiting msn leh!!
of cos i angry lah!! i make a big fuss and so on.. ask him why he did that.. he said "cos i dun wan to talk to her" ... of cos i angry.. ask him what is he tryin to hide and so on..
so he explain (we just held our customary abt 1 month ago) " in the complex, everybody see me.. ask me "hey married liaoz huh? how's the dinner?" den he say he also paiseh.. cos he dunno how to answer cos a lot of them in his same industry he did not invite.. den he tell me "some ppl u can tell them something.. some cannot. Say already,instead of the whole complex know.. the whole world will know"
I asked him.. den what's there for u to hide? get married very shameful meh? he said its not that den he still trying to explain himself.. till he got a bit fed up becos for the whole week i have been crying on and off and i have read from the internet that its signs of depression.. he also know.. but he dunno how to deal / handle me..
he assure me that he did not do anything unfaithful den why i keep crying.. i also dunno leh.. but i will scared lor (from my previous marriage) .. Sigh.. den while trying to comfort me.. he actually said "sorry" IF nothing done wrong.. tell me sorry for what? sorry for not letting his female friends know that he is married????
Do u think what he said can be believed ? or i am just being paranoid and sensitive???
I remember got 1 night.. before going to sleep.. i ask him leh.. how come u keep in contact with her?? he said "work lor, what else" "please lah.. compare u with her.. 1 heaven, 1 earth leh.. " "u wan to ask me who heaven huh? of cos its u lah..the difference very big lor"
i ever ask him also.. now u start to "xian" me is it? he said.. if he "xian" he would have ask me abort the baby long ago..
i also ever ask him " are u sure u are prepared to be a father?" he said "yes"
everyday he work very late.. sometimes busy till no lunch also.. after work he comes home .. bathe, eat,play cpu or watch tv awhile, den will go sleep liaoz.. he does chat on irc lah.. but with me ard i see him chat too lor..
i am confused too..